When we experience shame we do one of four things: Withdraw, Avoid, Attack Other, Attack Self. We often are not aware of what we are doing, but withdrawal leads to depression while avoidance leads to addiction. If we find that we have to blame someone else for how we are then we attack using judgement, anger, intimidation, or criticism. If we attack our self that can be anything from self-abuse to constant self degrading chatter in our head. What is it that you do?