YOUR LIFE A-Z:MITIGATE

THERE IS BEAUTY IN EVERYTHING

MITIGATE

If we lived in a world where there were no MITIGATING circumstances, that black and white world has the potential to be very boring and also very dangerous.  Imagine that flexibility gave way to rigidity and that MITIGATING circumstances did not matter.  To MITIGATE something is to lessen the severity of the sentence or to look at all of the circumstances involved.  To lighten someone else’s load due to MITIGATING circumstances and trying to understand why someone did what they did is important.  But what is even more important, it the fact that you learn to MITIGATE your own life choices.  To punish yourself for something you did years ago is ludicrous and useless.  To view yourself through a negative lens because of mistakes in your past is robbing you of today.  Learn to MITIGATE those negative messages in your head.  Learn to ask direct questions to those accusations in your head.  Ask:

 “Did I do the best I could at that time with what I had?”  

“If not, then what else was going on that prevented me from doing my best at that time?”

“What would I have needed at that time to make a better choice?

“How can I make the most of the situation today?”

Learning to MITIGATE those negative messages and forgive yourself for past mistakes is important to the quality of life you have today.  Google the word to Pink’s song, “Perfect,” and sing them everyday. “Change the voices in your head, make them like you instead.” MITIGATE.

YOUR LIFE A-Z MASTERY

THE PANAMA CANAL - 100 YEARS OF MASTERY

MASTERY

Self- MASTERY is a skill that is necessary to survive childhood with ourself-esteem intact.  If our parents “over-functioned” for us and we could not even tie our shoes so to speak, then it is natural as kids to feel inept.  If our family system neglected us, it is likely that MASTER is something you never really cherished or celebrated.  Today as adults, when you are around a child, the normal thing to do is to clap and praise a child for the most innocuous events, like tying his or her shoe.  That praise helps the child feel confident and eager to try again and even try to perfect their former feat.  Praise builds MASTERY.  Neglect or criticism tears MASTERY down and creates a sense of inner defeat.  We cannot keep blaming our parents for our lack of confidence, self-esteem, or self-worth.  The only person to blame now is our self.  It is never too late to MASTER your life, your skills, or your dreams.  If you keep focusing on what you did not receive, guess what, you still won’t receive it.  So, learn to practice whatever it is that you want to be different in your life until you establish a sense of MASTERY.  MASTERY requires practice, fortitude, and trying again and again until you feel good about your skill level or present situation. MASTERY, being really good at something builds your self-esteem and self-image.  MASTERY of one thing leads to the energy to practice MASTERY with something else.