YOUR LIFE A-Z: DARE

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DARE

DARE to take Care of You today.  DARE to be yourself today.  DARE to get out of your comfort zone and take a risk that is so “not you.”  If you are shy, DARE to talk to a stranger today.  If you are quiet, DARE to speak your opinion today.  If you are a couch potato, DARE to go for a very long walk. Take water.  DARE to risk rejection today. DARE to ask for what you want and need.  DARE is to defined as a challenge that proves courage.  Anytime we break out of our rut, we DARE to change.  Change is uncomfortable but just like a new pair of jeans when the fit is good they feel so good.  When we DARE ourselves by challenging ourselves to be different and out of our rut then after the initial discomfort, exhilaration and excitement from the challenge sets in.  What are three things that you can DARE yourself to do?  Just like the first questions in this post, do something completely out of the ordinary for you.  Life is to be experienced, not watched from the sidelines.  It is common for all of us to get into a rut and then it feels so comfortable to know that every Saturday is chores first, grocery shopping next, order in pizza and a movie in the evening.  But really what quality does that provide week in and week out?  Yes, housework must be done but switch it out so that you can use some of your energy to DARE to be different. 

YOUR LIFE A-Z NEED

LIFE NEEDS LIGHT TO GROW

NEED

Before we start down this road of exploration, it is important to pay attention to what your body experiences when you read this "N" word.  Do you experience a negative sensation in your body?  Do judgements rush to the foreground of your mind?  It is important to explore your judgements, ideas, and feeling about the word NEED.  What are your needs?  Can you say them out loud?  List three really specific needs. For instance, say "I need to feel loved."  What does that look like, feel like, and what actions are required for you to know you are loved?  Is it financial security?  Think about that. If financial security is a necessity for you to experience feeling loved, then what happens to your feeling of love if circumstances drastically change and your partner can no longer provide for you?  Or what happens to your self-love if your financial situation changes?  Do you trash yourself or do you just flat-out pretend you don't need anything?  How does that work for you?  To not admit that you need anything is a very sad position to live in because it essentially means you are not willing to risk anything.  In one sense it is such a guarded position that is a very selfish position. One of the roots of selfishness is protection or defence, and to not acknowledge your needs.  If you are thirsty and need water what do you do?  Do you go get a drink of water or do you expect someone else to bring you water?  The answer to that question tells you a lot about yourself.  Learn to be bold with what you need?