It has been said that the one thing in life that everyone can count on is "change." Change is inevitable and it happens all the time. Most of the time we do t notice the small changes, like the change in our breathing when we are listening intently. But notice, the next time you hear something foreign, notice that your body becomes still, you sit up, and you hold your breath. If the noise is a just a creak in the house you identify it, label it and move on with the task at hand. However, if the sound is noticeably different, not easily identifiable all of your body changes to alert you, that danger may be near.
That is a simple illustration of our bodies response to "different." Now, think about the times when you knew you were going to have to change. Notice all of the self messages like:
"I can't do this." "I don't want to do this." "This sucks."
Next think about a change you want to make or perhaps a change you have been wanting to make but just can't get into the right space to make it. List all of the messages you give yourself about the desired change. De-construct each negative message by asking yourself these questions:
1.) what small step can I take today toward my desired change?
2.) what can I do about this that I have not been willing to do?
3.) what is the worse thing that can happen if I move toward my desired change?
4.) what are three positive things that can happen if I move toward my desired change?
Focus on making the three positive things happen. You have actually tricked yourself into having achievable goals. Now, go for it.
More tools coming in next blog. Drdilley@psychotherapyunlimited.com
