YOUR LIFE A-Z:OBLIGATION

OBLIGATION IS STICKY SOMETIMES

OBLIGATION

OBLIGATION is a duty that you are responsible to perform for you or someone else.  The problem with OBLIGATION is that sometimes we feel OBLIGATED to do something for someone but it really is not our duty or responsibility to do it for them.  Feeling an OBLIGATION that is not really ours is called guilt.   Sometimes OBLIGATION is guilt and guilt can be a strong motivator and also a strong resentment maker.   If someone does a favor for you, are you OBLIGATED to do a favor for him/her?  No you are not.  The word favor implies a gift of the heart out of “I want to.”  If someone does something for you in order to OBLIGATE you to do something back, that is not a favor.  That is manipulation. It is important that you learn the difference between favor and manipulation.  The bottom line is that you are responsible for you and your choices and other people are equally responsible for his/her self.   Learning what your OBLIGATIONS are is important.  Some OBLIGATIONS you will do joyfully.  Other OBLIGATIONS such as a medical bill that seems completely unreasonable but you are still OBLIGATED to pay.  However, that payment may not be made with such joy, but some resentment.  Resentment is a part of life, it is important that you not allow resentment to move in, just let it pass through.  OBLIGATIONS are a part of our adult life and must be met.  How we meet those OBLIGATIONS determines what type of day we will have. 

YOUR LIFE A-Z: VESTED

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VESTED

I have been speaking about your buy-in throughout the TWENTY MINUTE COACH.  Vested is not only about your emotional, physical, and spiritual buy-in to your accomplishment, it is your right to obtain what it is you want in your life.  The U.S. Constitution guarantees you a vested right of Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.  That is your right as an American.  Perhaps all of my readers are not Americans, but the point can be extrapolated to certain rights of individuals just becauseyou are a human being.  In order for you to access those rights, you must be VESTED, you must buy-in as something that is of the utmost importance to you.  The more important something is to you the more you are willing to work to make it happen.  If your goals are not materializing by this point it is probably because you chose goals that are just not that important to you.  If you are closer than you were a month ago then progress is a result of your VESTED interest in accomplishing that which you set out to accomplish.  In employment situations, employees usually become VESTED after they have worked for a company of five or more years.  That means they get a little pension or money after they retire as a result of being “VESTED,” committed to the company.  Commitment to the finish line will only happen if you are VESTED in the outcome and that there is some personal benefit for finishing.