YOUR LIFE A-Z:FINISH

NO MATTER WHAT THE TASK...FINISH IT!

FINISH

FINISH it.  Don’t procrastinate and keep putting off that to-do list of yours.  FINISH it.  Where are the loose ends in your life?  What unfinished project is nagging at you to finish it?  What is it about this unfinished business that keeps you from accomplishing what you set out to do?  Energy is renewed, goals are refreshed and dreams are re-launched when space clears out in our daily life because projects get FINISHED.   If you sit with yourself and ask what is it that stops me from FINISHING my project and write down six reasons that you are not FINISHING what you set out to do, you may discover really important information about yourself.  Perhaps you think you feel overwhelmed but if you allow yourself to be self-reflective you might discover that you never really did not want to do this project in the first place.  Or perhaps you are disappointed that the project is not what you thought it would be?  There are many reasons that the FINISH line is often illusive in our daily life.  FINISH can only happen when you have at least 90% buy in and investment in the project. Something inside of you is giving your resistance and you need to make peace with that resistance or bypass it to FINISH.  FINISHING projects, unfinished interpersonal business, and your daily to do list will allow you to feel a sense of accomplishment and new life and energy will be available for you to move on to new goals and dreams. 

YOUR LIFE A-Z: CHANGE

READY FOR CHANGE

CHANGE

Where in the world did you get the belief that change is hard?  The one thing that makes CHANGE hard is your underlying belief that CHANGE is hard.  CHANGE in and of itself is maybe inconvenient or uncomfortable.  If you decide to CHANGE clothes in the middle of the day, perhaps you make more work for yourself but do you feel more comfortable after you CHANGE your clothes?  It is probably good an idea to CHANGE into a swim suit before jumping into the pool; but is that CHANGE all that hard?  So what story have you been telling yourself about CHANGE?  What is it that you want to CHANGE?  First define exactly what you want to CHANGE.  Now, ask yourself what is it that you need in terms of resources to make that CHANGE.  How and when are you going to acquire those resources?  When are you going to start working toward your goal of CHANGE and when is the completion date for CHANGE?  I promise you there will be no successful CHANGE with out a deadline. Humans are designed to take the path of least resistance, so ask yourself what prevents you from reaching your goal of CHANGE?  What will you have to do to illuminate, reduce, or Bypass the obstacles in your way of CHANGE?  CHANGE is fun.  CHANGE your hairstyle and notice how that makes you feel different, even younger.  CHANGE is a way of breaking free from old ruts.  Try CHANGE this week in playful ways and notice the difference.  

YOUR LIFE A-Z:DETERMINED

BE DETERMINED -REGARDLESS

DETERMINED 

Now that you have called out the battle cry and are headed in the direction necessary to change your life, it is time to plant your feet firmly in DETERMINATION.  Being DETERMINED means being firm in your choice and decision. It means you are resolute to finish that which you started.  Nothing will get in the way of a DETERMINED decision.  Action is the step that you need to take daily to bring your DETERMINATION to life.  Each time you take a step of action you are acting DETERMINED.  Without DETERMINATION nothing gets finished. Without DETERMINATION warriors turn around and go home, football teams walk off of the field, and students quit when life gets tough.  

DETERMINATION is not something you are born with, however, it did require that you have some of it get through that birth canal.  Had you not fought hard to get your 3-12 pound self out of that womb you would have died, smothered in a womb you had outgrown.  There are two major ingredients in this process.  First, your situation that you are currently in has become as uncomfortable as your mother’s womb.  Second, now in order for you to move past this uncomfortable space your life you need to use that same DETERMINATION you had pre-birth to battle yourself into your next life’s choice.  If you have given up on yourself then it is time to get into trenches and DETERMINE to make new, educated, and calculated choices to get what you want.  

YOUR LIFE A-Z:KAPUT

IT IS FINISHED. NO MORE. 

KAPUT

Yep, it is KAPUT all right.  It is completely broken and useless.  How many things do you have in your house that are KAPUT?  How many pieces of clothes do you have in your closet or sock draw that you just need to take to the TRASH?  Yes, I said trash.  Don’t give your broken, used, useless, tattered clothes to someone else through the thrift store.  How tacky is that?  If it is so worn you won’t wear again with a sense of pride, why would you place it in a pink bag for a VET?  Those clothes in your closet that are too small or not your style or you only wore them once or twice, those are the clothes you put in the pink bag.  If you won’t wear it with pride then don’t give it to someone else.  Just because someone shops at the Good Will does not mean they are broken and useless.  I imagine your home is full of KAPUT’S and that those broken and useless things are taking up room that could be converted to a useful space for some of your treasures. Clear your KAPUT stuff out of your living space.  Make room for creative and clean energy.  If you hear negative self talk in your head, such as criticism from your mom or dad that says, “See, how wasteful you are.” Or “You never used that $43.00 potato peeler.”  Just remain on task.  Get rid of the KAPUTs and remind your parents and friends they don’t get a vote. If they can’t say something nice, don’t say it all.  KAPUT.  Those messages are broken and useless.

YOUR LIFE A-Z: VESTED

THE RAIN CAN BE BEAUTIFUL AND INVITING ...GO  ENJOY IT ANYWAY

VESTED

I have been speaking about your buy-in throughout the TWENTY MINUTE COACH.  Vested is not only about your emotional, physical, and spiritual buy-in to your accomplishment, it is your right to obtain what it is you want in your life.  The U.S. Constitution guarantees you a vested right of Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.  That is your right as an American.  Perhaps all of my readers are not Americans, but the point can be extrapolated to certain rights of individuals just becauseyou are a human being.  In order for you to access those rights, you must be VESTED, you must buy-in as something that is of the utmost importance to you.  The more important something is to you the more you are willing to work to make it happen.  If your goals are not materializing by this point it is probably because you chose goals that are just not that important to you.  If you are closer than you were a month ago then progress is a result of your VESTED interest in accomplishing that which you set out to accomplish.  In employment situations, employees usually become VESTED after they have worked for a company of five or more years.  That means they get a little pension or money after they retire as a result of being “VESTED,” committed to the company.  Commitment to the finish line will only happen if you are VESTED in the outcome and that there is some personal benefit for finishing.

Your Life A-Z FETCH

You Don't Always Have to Run After Something. Just Get It!

FETCH

What a fun word!  Yes, we can have fun this year.  We can play with the alphabet while we strengthen our emotional inner core.  In physical exercise, it is important to build your core, as it helps with balance and overall strength.  So today FETCH something you need.  What do you need to expand and develop what you have been working on the past two days?  Today, go get it.  Whatever it is, go for it.  Stop the excuses.  “I can’t afford it, do it, or have it.”   Take one step towards fetching that goal.  Put some money aside beginning right now or do what action it is that you been putting off.  Do it right now.  There is never a better time than now to FETCH WHAT YOU NEED.  Go get it. NOW. 

Photo: Mary Neil