YOUR LIFE A-Z UNITY

UNITY

Unity is defined as a state of being in full agreement.  From a psychological point of view we have many parts of our inner self.  Just like our body has arms, legs, heart, and lungs, blood and so on, our psyche has many parts as well.  It has taken the medical field a very long time to understand that if my leg hurts then everything else is affected in my body.  The body is one and when it is at its best all parts are in alignment and working on your behalf.  If you go back to my example on strength and core strength you hear me say, “I don’t enjoy the type of work involved to have a strong core. “  I also say,  “I am brutally harsh on myself for not being willing to change that.”  That critic that tells me that I am lazy, foolish, and one day will pay, is out of step with the other parts of me.I need to bring it into alignment.  I need to work with the inner critic in supportive and nourishing ways in order to calm the fear.  The critic in this case is operating in fear that I will loose my ability to stay active which is very important to me if I don’t work with my core.  Inner work is important to our psychic well-being. We have parts that are young and developmentally delayed.  There are neglected parts, scared parts and playful parts.  See if you can list 10 different inner parts and then begin the work of getting them in unity.  

YOUR LIFE A-Z:INTEGRITY

WITHSTANDING ALL TYPES OF WEATHER, CREATES A STATELY SELF

INTEGRITY

Barbara Killinger, PhD., in her book Integrity: Doing the right thing for the right reason, says on page 12, “Integrity is a personal choice, an uncompromising and predictably consistent commitment to honor moral, ethical, spiritual and artistic values and principles.” The Twenty Minute Coach says, integrity is necessary for your own personal happiness.  You are You!  You need to celebrate and honor yourself everyday, twenty-four hours a day.  If you compromise your value, your honesty, your commitment to honor your truth then you lose yourself piece by piece.  Maybe at first you don’t realize it, but as the days turn into months and the months turn into years you become more and more asleep and begin to feel as if life has passed you by. Personal integrity is as important as your health.  Without it, you lose your sense of importance and risk becoming a chameleon.  

Today, start asking yourself, “Who am I?”  “What matters to me?”  Listen to yourself when you are in a conversation with others. Do you do the right thing by you or do you go along with the conversation because you are afraid of what your friends will think?  Listen to your inner voice when you are watching politics on TV.  What is your opinion?   Write each day about how you used your voice and thoughts to speak up for yourself and practice your own sense of integrity.  Writing it out will help you become clear, and the clarity will help you really know who you are and what it is that you believe.