YOUR LIFE A-Z NEED

LIFE NEEDS LIGHT TO GROW

NEED

Before we start down this road of exploration, it is important to pay attention to what your body experiences when you read this "N" word.  Do you experience a negative sensation in your body?  Do judgements rush to the foreground of your mind?  It is important to explore your judgements, ideas, and feeling about the word NEED.  What are your needs?  Can you say them out loud?  List three really specific needs. For instance, say "I need to feel loved."  What does that look like, feel like, and what actions are required for you to know you are loved?  Is it financial security?  Think about that. If financial security is a necessity for you to experience feeling loved, then what happens to your feeling of love if circumstances drastically change and your partner can no longer provide for you?  Or what happens to your self-love if your financial situation changes?  Do you trash yourself or do you just flat-out pretend you don't need anything?  How does that work for you?  To not admit that you need anything is a very sad position to live in because it essentially means you are not willing to risk anything.  In one sense it is such a guarded position that is a very selfish position. One of the roots of selfishness is protection or defence, and to not acknowledge your needs.  If you are thirsty and need water what do you do?  Do you go get a drink of water or do you expect someone else to bring you water?  The answer to that question tells you a lot about yourself.  Learn to be bold with what you need?

YOUR LIFE A-Z: YEARN

YEARN

ACHE TO FIND THE CENTER

What is your heart yearning for?  When you took time to take a X-RAY of your feelings yesterday what did you discover about your emotional health?  What is missing in your life that you have always wanted?  This is a tough but very honest question because it means opening up to hurt and sadness.  Perhaps you have lost a loved one this year and your heart yearns for that connection to her/him again.  Perhaps you believe that you have never experienced love, real heart soul love to another and that you YEARN for that connection.  Sometimes our YEARNINGS are not within our ability to change immediately.  But sometimes our YEARNINGS can make us into a victim if we put a negative spin on them, such as, “Everyone else has a partner, why can’t I?”  It is important to explore our heart YEARNINGS and ask if they are helping or hurting us?  If you are not doing anything about your YEARNING then that is not helpful.  If you are going to grief groups and reading how to let go materials, you will get there.  Some days will be better than others.  If you don’t put yourself out there to meet other people you will stay alone.  Learning that you have choices even in the most difficult situations is a part of growing up and being a healthy adult.  It is hard and often lonely, but doable. Don’t ignore your YEARNINGS.  Sketch them out and do something about them or replace them with real possibilities.  I can YEARN for my youth, but it is not returning.  I can do youthful activities and feel young and that is a reality.  

YOUR LIFE A-Z: RESIST

KEEP WALKING, KEEP GOING, FOLLOW THE PATH

RESIST

RESIST the temptation to stop or slow down. Scream NO at any hint of quitting your project or goal you are working on.  RESIST those internal messages that say, “This is too hard.”  “What was I thinking, I can’t do this.”  Those voices and thoughts are like an infection in your soul and you must enhance your internal immune system to fight off the infection.  Perhaps you do need a three- day break.  Take it, but have a plan for returning to the direction you are headed in three days.  Perhaps you need to fortify your goal or dream with special knowledge from someone else or employ a resource to help you decide how to best proceed.  Whatever the case, get what you need to help your soul to be happy and healthy and RESIST the temptation to quit.  You can do this.  This is a dream that you started and have always wanted, whethera new home, a new car, a new career, or a new geographical location. Whatever it is that you wrote down at the beginning of this process that you wanted to pay attention to and change this year, you can accomplish it and you certainly can be closer to your goal than you were when you started.  RESIST whatever it is in your way.  Fight back offensively by making a strategic move that will change the energy of what is pulling down. If you can’t make a touchdown, score a field goal and move on into what it is that you are wanting.

YOUR LIFE A-Z DESIRE

THE TIGER DESIRES A HEALTHY LIFE

DESIRE
“I desire chocolate ice cream.”  That is a false statement.  I may enjoy, like, or crave chocolate ice-cream but desire would be the wrong use of the word.  Desire in its true sense is a longing for something that is not easily accessible and involves the heart and emotion. Most of us can get in our cars and go get chocolate ice-cream and if we don’t get it then nothing bad or dreadful is going to happen.  But longing for something, wishing that something would be different, or that something would change is not easily available and costs us something of ourselves to obtain it.  To not obtain our desire creates a sense of emotional disappointment, distress, sadness and sometimes even depression.  Desire has a lot of emotional attachment intertwined in obtaining that which we desire.  Desire comes from a place inside of us that makes the object of our desire important to us; important enough to us to work hard for it, save for it, plan for it, and even to sacrifice for it.  That emotional craving that says I must have this and as a result my life will be improved in tangible and delightful ways.  Desire is driven by motivation and motivation is driven by desire.  They dance an interdependent dance with each other and our job is to make that dance one of balance, eloquence and beauty.  Our heart desires need to be at the top of our priority list.