YOUR LIFE A-Z: WHAT

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

WHAT?

WHAT do you really want? WHAT is a very important question that you must learn to sit with until you reach the clarity of an answer and develop vision for your life.  The word WHAT seems simple enough until you allow yourself to really answer this important question. WHAT do you really want? The TWENTY-MINUTE coach has talked about the important word WHY.  It might be important to go back and re-read that word while contemplating WHAT it is that your really want.  Sometimes if you do not take the time to examine why you want what you want, then the word WHAT becomes an invisible task- master, causing you to fret and worry about not getting something that you really didn’t want in the first place.  Knowing yourself and understanding that the “WHAT’S” in your life are important to you then increases your velocity to move toward your stated goal.  If your goal is lukewarm and birthed out of a should then your velocity to obtain your WHAT will remain at a slower speed than you need to change.   As you think about the WHAT in your life, it may be very helpful to create a vision board that allows you to experience the emotion of moving forward to your goal.  A vision board can help you clarify if you really want your WHAT or not.  Learning to let go of goals that do not serve us is as important and sometimes more important than creating goals in the first place.  WHAT I give you is permission to let go of your underserving WHAT’s in life. This important word WHAT needs to bring your joy. 

YOUR LIFE A-Z: WHY

SOMETIMES THERE IS NO BOTTOM IN THE BUCKET YOU NEED

WHY

WHY is a very interesting three-letter word.  WHY is often a three-letter drug.  Often you seek answers to WHY something is happening assuming if  you could know WHY then you could control or change the outcome.  Insight as to WHY something is happening is sometimes helpful but not necessarily useful.  When you understand the WHY of something it does not necessarily help you change it.  Thus, don’t spend unnecessarily energy fretting about something when you could be best be served by changing your actions or behavior even when you  don’t understand WHY.   However, if you can let go of the addiction of always having to understand the WHY,  it frees you up to explore what you going to do about something. What action needs to be taken is more useful than the WHY.   WHY the car crashed may be useful in the long run but what needs to be done about the car crash is the first question that needs to be asked.  WHY is important to ask after the emergency has been handled.  WHY is important in this case only to learn from it.  WHY is a useless question if you are hammering your fist through the wall asking WHY God allowed this to happen.  WHY you are sick may be useful question after you have begun to heal, but it is not the first question to ask when you are sick.  When you hear yourself asking WHY listen closely and ask yourself, “Is this WHY question making me a victim?” 

YOUR LIFE A-Z:MAGNETIC

FOLLOW YOUR HEART

MAGNETIC

Do you feel attracted to certain people, places, hobbies, or careers and wonder why?  I think we worry too much about the why’s of our lives and do not allow ourselves to follow that which attracts us.  If you have always wanted to play with stained glass but hear negative messages such as,  “That is way too much of an expense for the equipment. And besides what are you going to do with all of the stuff you make?”  Then you are allowing yourself to stop the MAGNETIC pull that is trying to get your attention to get you out of your rut.  The “WHY” is a three letter drug that immobilizes and stagnates you into inactivity.  

Allow yourself to follow that which draws you.  If you are looking in at other people’s lives and saying things like, “I wish I could be that….” then you need to stop envying the other and start creating your own MAGNETIC life.  Be more colorful, play with emotional connection, and allow intensity to be a motivator and not a cowardly lion in your life. Where is your yellow brick road?  You may not always know what is coming next, or what flying monkeys or wicked witches are trying to stop you, but if you follow the yellow brick road you will have MAGNETIC moments in your adventure in life.  Stop analyzing and start living.  Follow that which draws you and allow it to open up new paths and possibilities where you have told yourself those new paths were not possible for you.  (If that what draws you is immoral nor not a part of your value system…. of course don’t go there.  Go to a therapist instead.)