YOUR LIFE A-Z: WHAT

WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?

WHAT?

WHAT do you really want? WHAT is a very important question that you must learn to sit with until you reach the clarity of an answer and develop vision for your life.  The word WHAT seems simple enough until you allow yourself to really answer this important question. WHAT do you really want? The TWENTY-MINUTE coach has talked about the important word WHY.  It might be important to go back and re-read that word while contemplating WHAT it is that your really want.  Sometimes if you do not take the time to examine why you want what you want, then the word WHAT becomes an invisible task- master, causing you to fret and worry about not getting something that you really didn’t want in the first place.  Knowing yourself and understanding that the “WHAT’S” in your life are important to you then increases your velocity to move toward your stated goal.  If your goal is lukewarm and birthed out of a should then your velocity to obtain your WHAT will remain at a slower speed than you need to change.   As you think about the WHAT in your life, it may be very helpful to create a vision board that allows you to experience the emotion of moving forward to your goal.  A vision board can help you clarify if you really want your WHAT or not.  Learning to let go of goals that do not serve us is as important and sometimes more important than creating goals in the first place.  WHAT I give you is permission to let go of your underserving WHAT’s in life. This important word WHAT needs to bring your joy. 

YOUR LIFE A-Z:UNNECESSARY

BE KIND

UNNECESSARY

How much stuff is in your life that is completely UNNECESSARY?   How much chatter is in your head that is completely UNNECESSARY?   Ironically the first question to ask your self to any UNNECESSARY question is,  “Is it necessary?”  If you find yourself answering, “yes.”  Stop and think for a minute.   Really, is it necessary?  When was the last time you used it?  What do you need it for? What do you get out of it?  Learning to toss UNNECESSARY stuff (regardless if the UNNECESSARY is stuff or chatter) is a learned skill for most people.  Rather than make the decision to toss something when you are through using, most people save it for later.  For instance,  “Don’t throw that used jacket away, you don’t know when you might need it?”  But the truth is you hate the jacket and it has a hole in it that makes your feel ashamed to wear it.  Toss it.  It is UNNECESSARY to wear stuff that makes you feel ashamed.  If you can’t afford new stuff, don’t worry.  Thrift stores have awesome deals on great gently used stuff.  However, if you go to a thrift store, buy only what you need.  Just because it is a deal does not mean it is necessary.  Most of the stuff we buy is completely UNNECESSARY.  UNNECESSARY stuff, comments, and inner chatter need to be fully examined and managed in ways that help you feel positive about your environment, actions, and self. If it is UNNECESSARY, it needs to be discarded.

YOUR LIFE A-Z CLOSE

CLOSE OR ELSE

CLOSE 

In marketing, sales people are drilled by trainers and bosses everyday on the importance of closing the deal.  It is important for you to learn to CLOSE the deal in your daily life too.  What problems are you sill-mulling over that are waiting for you to make a decision about?  What loose ends of projects you started are still waiting for you to finish? CLOSE them out.  Those projects are clutter in your headspace preventing you from doing other more important things that are meaningful to you.  Analyze and make decisions.  You can change a decision most of the time, but in order to change it, you must make it in the first place. CLOSE out things that need to be completed. Finish or toss them.  CLOSE out relationships that no longer meet your needs or that you dread.  Do a CLOSE out sale in your house.  Either do a garage sale of unwanted junk or go through and choose twenty things to put into the Goodwill bag.  CLOSE out the clutter.  CLOSE also means to block entry or to bring together ends of an opening.  Block entry to your mind from negative thoughts. CLOSE the door to fretful worries.  Once you CLOSE the door, don’t re-open it to the same situation.  Change your timing or focus on the relationships, household goods, and thoughts that you like and that are working for you.  It is okay to CLOSE. Get what you want and need by CLOSING the open ended situations in your life.  

YOUR LIFE A-Z DISCOVER

Never Know What You Will Discover Inside

DISCOVER

By allowing yourself to accept your brilliance and gaining confidence with your new clear focus you will naturally discover properties about yourself and others that you have not allowed your self to see before.  Perhaps you have always been a creative person, but never allowed yourself to accept that your creativity is a talent that you own.  If you own it then you can get it out of your closet, dust it off and do something productive with it.

What parts of yourself have you locked away in the closet?  What were your dreams, desires, and hopes that you banished as being ridiculous, immature, or impossible?  Pull those out of the closet and dust them off.   Discover again the joy of being you and go for what it is that you want in your life today.  Or get out of your way and DISCOVER something brand new.  

Explore and create new ideas discovering things about yourself that you never dreamed existed inside of your soul.  Open the window and look inside.  You will probably be pleasantly surprised with the undiscovered gifts that have been beautifully wrapped inside of you all of your life.  They are just sitting there waiting for you to be curious enough to look inside and discover brand new opportunities to build the future you are wanting. 

You can never obtain excellence if your inner judge stops you before you even start something.  Anyone that has created something of excellence has failed more times than not and each time they try again, correcting what did not work before.  However, the joy of trying and discovering new things is a journey of inner excellence.  Enjoy yours.

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