|BE GENTLE IN ALL STORMS|
When I suggest a GENTLE inner voice to a client, it sometimes makes them recoil in disgust. That tells me a lot about the level of shame they have at their core self. Usually, the words that roll out of his/her mouth after I suggest a GENTLE inner voice are “I am not going to be weak or a cry baby.” That response often comes when I make a suggestion such as, “I know you are feeling disappointed with your choice right now and you need to have some alone time to deal with the hurt.” Verses a response that says, “Stupid, you did it again, you are always going to be a loser just like your father said you would.” So, if GENTLE is a tool, just like breath work, journaling, affirmations, emotional regulation, and goal setting, then GENTLE is just another tool in your Coaching tool box.
If a situation needs a tiny screwdriver, a hammer is not going to be helpful. So, choose the right tools for the right situations. A tiny screwdriver is necessity in all toolboxes. So is the GENTLE inner voice or a GENTLE touch, or a GENTLE response a necessity for positive change.